Wear high heels if the man is the taller dance partner. Wearing heels evens out the height difference, or at least reduces the gap between you and your partner. Select a comfortable, sturdy pair that will last you through your entire dancing session without discomfort, and try to keep heel size to 2 to 4 inches to prevent breakage during an energetic dance.
Adjust stride length to make up for height differences. Shorter dancers typically take smaller steps than taller partners. This is especially important if the lead is taller than the follow. Make sure your lead knows that if he takes large steps, you won't be able to keep up with him. If you are taller than your lead, adjust your own step size to follow his.
Alter at-rest position if necessary. Most partner dances include a generic at-rest position to fall back on. For at-rest positions that involve simply holding hands, such as in basic swing dancing, adjustment should be minimal or nonexistent. For at-rest positions that involve more connection, such as in tango, shorter girls may need to adjust the position of their arm on their lead's shoulder to avoid discomfort.