Give her some space. Women often need time to reflect after a tumultuous relationship. If an argument occurred, it’s best to let things cool down. Remember, words are hard to take back. Let cooler heads prevail and attempt to re-enter the relationship when both sides can speak amicably.
Review previous conversations. In the heat of the moment, it is hard to hear what the other side has to say. Reflecting on conversations to determine whether there is an overriding theme will help to find the root problem and get to the solution. If she is always asking about the level of your commitment, she may be insecure about the relationship.
Improve listening skills. Most of us learn how to tune other people out when the conversation is not desired. It’s important to look her in the eye and actually listen to what she has to say. Thinking about a comment while she is speaking is not listening. Absorb all the information that is being given and think before actually making a response. When responses show that her statements were actually heard, progress will be made. It helps to actually repeat back what was said in order to verify an understanding.
Plan a special evening. This doesn’t have to be lavish. It just needs to show that there is an understanding of what her needs are. Different things are important to different women, so it doesn't have to be a stereotypical night on the town. A quiet evening at home without a sports event blaring in the background may be her idea of perfection.
Talk about feelings. Men are sometimes programmed to shut down and keep feelings on the inside. It’s important to be honest about feelings even if they are not positive. In the end, true honesty will eliminate resentment and lead to a stronger relationship. If this doesn’t come naturally, get a sheet of paper and right down feelings in private before presenting them to her. This will help to validate your desire to continue with the relationship.