What is that video its by a rock band and i gues sin the girl an alcoholic she burns her house down at some party guess hes like cant save you from yourself?

The video you're describing is likely "Hurt" by Nine Inch Nails. In the video, a woman struggling with alcoholism throws a destructive party at a mansion, which ends with her burning the place down. The lyrics, particularly the line "What if I can't be who you want me to be?", suggest that the singer feels unable to save the woman from her self-destructive tendencies.