Slow dances usually last for the duration of one or more slow-paced songs. When a slow song begins, one partner usually asks the other if she would like to dance; the couple then proceeds to start dancing at this point.
There are several types of slow dance postures. The type of slow dance done depends entirely on the relationship of the dance partners, their ages and how well they know each other. A romantic couple, for example, might choose to dance very close together and even share a kiss during the dance. An older couple may dance with one set of opposite hands clasped, the man's hand gently on the woman's waist, and the woman's hand resting lightly upon the shoulder. Friends or family members may dance with the woman's arms around the man's neck and his hands on her waist, but will keep a large distance in between and will typically talk during the dance.
Slow dances usually take place during events and special occasions such as weddings, anniversary parties, bar and bat mitzvahs or school dances. Couples sometimes slow dance in private as it has the potential to lead to intimacy. At weddings, it is traditional for a bride to dance with her father and a groom to share a dance with his mother.
Slow dancing can solidify relationships of all kinds between two dancers. Slow dancing is a helpful way to get to know another person or to reconnect. It also allows for two people to share a private conversation and moment while still in a public setting. Slow dancing is a socially acceptable way for two people to express a physical connection and become closer.
Slow dancing requires movement. Typically, the male partner leads a slow dance, directing the couple across the dance floor. Slow dances tend to circle about a small spot on the dance floor and does not usually require a great deal of concentration from either partner. Slow dancing requires music and a certain amount of physical contact between two partners moving at the same pace.
Partners should always be extremely considerate of each other. A male partner should be particularly conscious of the placement of his hands. Generally, it is not acceptable to place your hands on a woman's bottom unless the couple is close and the male partner has obtained consent from the female partner. Those nervous about slow dancing or interested in further instruction should think about taking a dancing class.